I’ve been trying to figure out how to get started. Home and Garden Geek has been around for awhile, but I’ve never really gotten there.
I’m sure you know what I mean by getting “there”. You know, that elusive destination of accomplishment that you desire, but somehow manages to evade you? You come up with every excuse under the sun to say why something isn’t working, but until you hit the real nail on the head, basically you’re screwed.
If you don’t get off the proverbial merry-go-round of self-doubt, flashy objects and excuses, you’ll never get anywhere. You will forever be destined to exactly what you have before you.
What are the Steps in Getting Started?
There are a lot of answers to this question. Some are thoughtful and others just plain BS. For instance, just start. I call BS on that one. If it were that easy, everyone would be at their destination already.
Following a systematic plan is the only way to start where you are and arrive at the intended destination. With all my training in proces improvement, I forgot to apply my own knowledge to myself. This is the journey about doing so step by step. There are five primary steps. I’m happy to share them with you, how to use them and how I use them each step of the way.
I’d like to share where I am, what I’m doing and where I’m going. I welcome you to my journey. Proudly, I will share my failures and my accomplishments. With fear, courage and a bit of hard headedness, together we proceed from the here and now to the future that will be.
First Steps in How to Get Started
Change is a funny thing. Sometimes we want it and sometimes we don’t. The weird thing is, even though we might want it, we often fight it.
I am what some think of as a professional change agent. Well, I worked as one for about 10 years before taking on my new role. You can learn more about that part of me over here. I share that to let you know I know a little bit about this changing stuff.
First off it’s not easy. Even when you want it, change is hard. It’s always easier to stay in your rut and complain, make excuses and dream of the pie in the sky. The hardest thing to face is…if you try and fail you may shatter a dream.
Well, that’s true and not true.
You may shatter the pie in the sky part that makes it easy. However, if you approach the fail process correctly, it will be your best friend.
So…how do you do that? Include it in your first steps of the change process.
How to Get Started Step One: What’s the Problem
In order to know where you’re going (or want to go), you must first define the problem. This is the first step taken by all change experts. If you don’t know the problem you’re trying to solve, you have no direction. Worse than that, you will likely be solving the wrong problem from the git go.
In context with Home and Garden Geek, in order to make this baby successful, I had to do a reality check. I’ve been wishy washy for years about what the real problems have been. For instance,
- need to pay off bills
- want to make a lot of money
- ready to work for myself
- desire to do what I want to do
Now don’t get me wrong. All of that stuff still sounds good, but the first thing I’ve had to do in the last few weeks, is face my REAL and biggest problem. I have had to peel back the farce, the curtain, the fear and face what lies beneath.
I’m scared! I’m petrified as hell of putting myself out here and then falling on my face. Well, maybe not so much as that. I’m afraid of people not liking me or making fun of me, etc. You get the picture, right.
So…the first step in the change process and learning how to get started is: define the real problem.
Step Two: Define the Current State
Now that we’ve defined the problem, the next step is decide where you’re at. Another words, what’s your current situation? In the change world, we call this the current state.
For me, admitting that I’m scared and figuring out how to deal with it was part of that defining the current situation process. I had to admit all of the following in defining my current state.
- I’m going to fail (I don’t mean at this. I just mean at something. It’s inevitable. If you don’t try and stretch yourself, you’ll never grow. I intend to grow. So, I will fail! That’s good and that’s okay!)
- I love to plan and plan and plan. Unfortunately, the perfectly laid plan is worthless without action.
- I’m scared to death of the action.
- Action takes commitment.
- Commitment takes time.
- Time requires dedication.
- Dedication is only as strong as your WHY. (You can read about the WHY phase here). It’s worth your time and effort, if you truly want to proceed with a better life.
Step Three: Define the Future State
Now we’re getting to the nitty gritty. Step three in how to get started is define your future state. That means doing some real soul searching and deciding where it is you want to go. What is it that you’re after? Trying to accomplish? Or trying to turn from a dream into reality?
Now this is more complicated than you may think. Like I mentioned above, I had to get all the superficial stuff out of the way.
Yes, I want more money. I would love to be bill free and I want to be independent of a job. BUT…
I finally got down to the hardest part. My real desire, my real passion and what matters more than all that other stuff.
If my family and I are not healthy, then nothing else is worth it.
That’s when I started to realize, “well, there’s other people out there that want the same thing.” It’s kind of obvious because we hear it, see it, live it and breathe it every single day in our surroundings. TV, internet, social media, radio, it’s everywhere!
When this epiphany hit my somewhat overwhelmed brain, it clicked. This is something I can do that would mean everything in the world to me AND I can follow my passion to continue to help others even when I leave my profession.
Wahla! Nail on the head! So…what’s next?
Step Four: Identify the Barriers
Now things are starting to move. Once you get to step four, action is beginning to take place. This is where it’s all too easy to turn tail and run.
DON’T DO IT!!!!
This is where the rubber hits the road and you can really begin to get there.
Step four in the change process and getting started the right way is:
Identify the barriers keeping you from achieving your future state.
Many of us think of these barriers by different names. Here are just a few of them.
- problems in the way
Whatever we call them, it all boils down to the same thing.
There’s something standing in our way. So what’s stopping you? What’s preventing you from becoming the healthier, happier, freer person that you want to be?
- I’m fat
- I don’t eat well.
- Exercising is not my forte
- I never feel like I have enough time.
- Sometimes I feel overworked and overstressed.
- I focus on the wrong things too much and forget to smell the roses.
- You can read a bit more here, if you’re interested.
Sound familiar? Now you try it. You can follow along with me if you would like. I share my getting started process in my starter kit. If you’d like to join along, please grab your starter kit and let’s do this thing together.
Step Five: Time for the Action Plan
Here we are. We’ve made it to step five. This is where you have to work hard not to get sidetracked and try to jump in the ocean too fast. (Another bad habit I’ve had).
Step five is about mapping out a plan. There are hundreds of ways to do this. There’s no right or wrong way. It’s all about what works for you.
You can check out my post on mapping out my plan here. Don’t forget to grab your starter kit and do the prework so you’ll be ready when it’s time to map out your plan.
Now…let’s get started and move on to the next step in the process.
Until next time friends,